Reality stress and abuse

Your reality isn't really real. It only seems that way because of the way you perceive things to be. Your past shapes everything you believe today. Everything that happened to you in the past changes the choices you make today.

If this was a dating site it might be called baggage. Very little that happened to you when you were young and forming your opinions about how to live your life, is correct. However it's not your fault. It's how you were raised.

Problem is your current reality is still being run by things you were taught or learned from your parents at a very young age. Heh, in my case that's some 60 years ago yet things that happened to me when I was four years old still tend to influence the things I do and say, today.

Right now, at this exact moment, are you living the life you want? Are you happy? Do you have the things you want, the relationship you want, a husband or boyfriend who treats you well? Or is your life just a grown up version of your childhood?

If your father was abusive chances are you have a husband or boyfriend who is abusive. If you are married you probably knew they were abusive before you married them, yet you did it anyway. Why? Because your reality tells you that people who love you are supposed to abuse you.

If you are a guy and you got abused your reality says it's okay to abuse those you love. If your mother was abused by your father it's okay to abuse your current wife or girlfriend.

If you were taught to be prejudice then you are still that way today. If you were taught you don't have a chance to become rich then you are quite probably poor and barely making ends meet. If you were taught to just accept your lot in life then you probably did that.

However you can change all of that if you want to. You can change your reality right now, today, just by changing the way you think.

Like everything else in life it's a choice and only you can make it. Oh, and one other thing. You, despite your past, are responsible for everything you do or decide to do, today. You make the choices now.

How you treat others and how your children grow up and what they believe is your total responsibility and your choice. Do you want your daughter to grow up believing it's alright for her husband to abuse her? Then make the choice to stop abusing her now.

Do you want your son to grow up abusing his wife or girlfriend? Then stop abusing him today. Start showing love and caring and acceptance instead of screaming, hollering or abusing.
By what you do today you are teaching your children their future reality.

That's your responsibility. If you lie to them you can expect them to lie. If you set an example of stealing, cheating, doing drugs, etc. Expect them to grow up thinking all of those things are okay.
Is that the life you really want someone you say you love with all of your heart and soul, to have? I doubt it.

Teach your children they can do anything. Teach them to love, honor and respect their husbands or wives. Teach them to be honest, dependable and caring. Teach them to stand on their own to feet, to be independent and that they can have any kind of life they want to have.

If you didn't like your life don't give your children the same life you had and for sure don't parent them like you were parented. If you aren't happy, then change yourself. You are the only one who can change you and you are the one who is responsible for how your children turn out.
Make the choice for them to have good lives.

Make the choice for you to have a better life from now on. Life's all about choices. It's never to late to make a different choice and change your own current reality and your childrens future reality.