Self esteem, depression and guilt

I said yesterday the purpose of this blog wasn't to make money. Today I noticed all of the self esteem AdSense ads and I know a free method to boost anyone and every ones self esteem.

Before I get to the specific instructions I'll tell you something that will be a subject of a future post. I spent 20 years as a serious alcoholic and had a lot of guilt about a lot of things. Heh, talk about causes of depression.

Anyway, in 1980 I spent a long, long time in alcohol treatment. To bad I wasn't a celebrity I might have gotten away with 4 weeks but I wasn't so I ended up in alcohol treatment for 9 MONTHS. Lol, one of the time my being stubborn caused me a major problem.

Yes, it was court ordered and I wasn't to be released from treatment until all the staff agreed I was likely to stay sober when I got out. Took me 6 months to figure out my way wasn't going to work and to figure out what they wanted me to say and do.

They made a mistake letting me out but I had learned to play the game their way so they finally let me out. They did make me a much better manipulator and it took 7 more years for what they taught me, to sink in. It finally did.

It was also at the same time that I discovered personal responsibility. That it wasn't my fault my mother didn't want me, that it wasn't my fault I was molested and that most things I felt guilty or bad about weren't my fault. But that's another 30 yrs in the future from Fairmont.

Back to self esteem. The following is what taught me and it works. I've taught it to others and it's to simple for most to believe it works. Things can be exceptionally simple and still work very well. If you can write or print it will work for you too. All you have to do is do it.

What I want you to do is write down three things you did or didn't do today that were good things. One line each.

When you have very low self esteem or are very depressed it's hard to think of three things that were good but everyone does good things everyday. Problem is you and I don't give ourselves credit for doing them or not doing them.

It can be as simple as I put the toilet seat down, in my case if nothing else, I didn't have a drink today. I didn't pee my pants, I didn't hit anyone, I didn't lose my temper, I let someone in in traffic, I took the garbage out, I was nice when I didn't want to be, etc. I went to work on time, I donated 1 million dollars to a worth cause and on and on and on.

They don't have to be major things. They can be things you expect yourself to do and you do them daily but never give yourself the credit for doing them. If you really want to see if it works try it for thirty days without telling anyone and then after thirty days ask your friends, wife, girlfriend, etc. if they see any changes in you in the last couple of weeks.

Some days I really struggle with this but I know there are always at least three things I did that were good things. They don't have to be major things. Any little small things are fine. It doesn't matter how small or how large. It just matters that you did it.

Some days just getting out of bed is a good thing. ;) The more you do it the more things you will be able to come up with that you did that were good things. However you must do it everyday.

When you are feeling down go back and read what you have written. It will help you. The only rule is you can only use 1 thing per week. You can't write down that you didn't pee on the floor today for seven days in a row. Nor should you write down the same things every week. Try to find new things everyday that were good.

It's cheap, ya just don't get any cheaper than free. You don't need to spend a ton of money to raise your own self esteem. However you do have to do it daily and you do have to write it down everyday. I spend 5 minutes doing it every night before I go to sleep.

Doing it them gives me a free fringe benefit that also helps me go to sleep because I'm thinking of good things instead of other things.

Give it the 30 day trial and see if you don't feel better about yourself. Yes, it's simple but it does work so give it a shot before you waste any money on supposedly sure fire ways to raise your own self esteem. If your kids have low self esteem it will work for them too. You may have to help them a bit but when you help them write theirs you can write it down as a good thing you did.

It's simple, it's not hard, and it's free. Life just doesn't get much better than that. Give it a try as it will work for you too and raise your self esteem.