Reality and how it works for me.

Everyone should know they create their own unique reality. At least I hope they do. Even insane people or deeply troubled people create their own reality. Lol, the reason they are considered insane or troubled is because their perceived realities don't match what the rest of us think perceived realities should be.

That line of thinking leads to some interesting speculation that maybe it's our perceived realities that are wrong and insane peoples that are correct. Perhaps they see what's really there and we have learned to cover it up or ignore it so don't believe it exists. Just because we can't see it or understand it doesn't mean it isn't true.

We all create our own realities and we all choose which people we let into our private realities. We even have some choice in our public realities. We exercise this in public by where we shop, where we eat, what we buy, etc.

If we are mistreated somewhere we don't generally go back, if the salespeople at one store are rude we go to a different store, if we don't like the food we go someplace else to eat the next time. Accept this as fact because it is how we do things.

Our private realities are a different story. There we create them totally, They are ours and we are responsible for them. We are responsible for who we allow in them. Yes, we are, you do choose your friends don't you? You do chose to answer the phone for some people and let others go to voice mail. Isn't caller ID a wonderful thing.

We are responsible for our acts because it's our reality and we made the choice to do them. Most bank robbers aren't compelled to rob banks but do it by conscious choice.

We are all responsible for what we say in our realities because we made the choice to say them. In the heat of an argument you call your girlfriend or wife a stupid ignorant whore and she gets hurt by the words and leaves you.

You can rationalize saying the words anyway you like, "I was angry" "She pissed me off" "she hurt me first so I hurt back" but the fact of the matter is you made a conscious choice to argue with her and you made a choice to say the words. They did come out of your mouth after all.

Of course you could always claim an alien took over your body and it wasn't really you that said the words. However the choice you could have made, not to argue would have been the best but you didn't make that choice. You chose a different option.

Get it yet? We all control our own reality. At least 99.9999% do. Yes, even the poor, the rich and everyone in between. You absolutely allways have two choices. Yes or no, good or bad, etc.

Circumstances may put you in a position in which it looks like you have no choice but you will always have two no matter what. One will just be so bad you can't even consider it and assume you have no choice but you do. You always do, even with no brainers.

Sometimes you have to many choices but that's a nice position to be in. Not everyone is comfortable with to many choices and get afraid of making the wrong choice or get so confused they can't make a choice at all. Like children in a toy store.

What happened in your past reality doesn't really matter now. You should have learned from it and then left it in the past where it belongs. That can be very hard to do. Particularly in my case.

Practically every decision I make is colored one way or another by what happened to me in the past. Everyone has that problem and needs to learn how to overcome it. When you choose your own reality, what and who you allow in it, you have made a start in the right direction.

As you get better at controlling your own reality you will discover you can live without a lot of people you thought you couldn't. If some lies to you all the time why do you let them into your reality? If someone steals from you why do you let them in your reality? If someone mistreats you why do you let them in your reality?

It is your reality after all. You get to choose the rules, morals and ethics of people you allow to be close to you in your reality. I've excluded several people from my reality in the last week for failing to meet the minimum expectations I have for people in my private reality.

When something or someone causes more bad feelings, more feeling of anger, irritation or impatience than they cause good feelings you really should think about removing them from your reality or at least pushing them away so there is more distance between you.

In other words you get to choose how happy you are going to be, how much drama you want to put up with, etc. It is your reality so you get to choose everything in it. Choose to keep things in your reality because they make you happy or feel good and get rid of the things that make you feel bad.

I have people, who when they call I immediately answer the phone. There are others who I don't answer but if they leave a message I'll probably listen to it and then there are those who I don't answer at all and delete their messages without listening to them. It's my choice. It's also yours.

Choose wisely who you let in your reality and you will be happier. Yeah, some of your present reality is bad, so is some of mine. So you works at a crappy job. Change it. It is your choice. Yes, you do have to support your family and yes jobs may be hard to find but focus on what you want, keep working at it and you will find a job you like and that you can support your family on.

Just wishing isn't going to change your reality one little bit. You need to make the choice to do it and then the work to make it happen. If you don't then learn to be happy in your reality.

I am changing mine. You can change yours.